“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication.” – Tony Robbins
Welcome to the world of never ending communication, where the world is evolving with progressive technology every single day of our lives. With the advancement in technology, we are able to reach out to places that we weren’t able to before. But are we reaching out and communicating the way we should? Do people really understand what we are trying to say or do they misconstrue what we say?
What is communication?
Communication is the transferring of a message from one person to another and back.It is a two-way process where the sender of the message needs to make sure that they are actually conveying what they have in mind while the receiver needs to take the initiative of listening, more importantly, understanding the message and sending feedback.
Is speaking the only mode of communication?
When we think about communication, we usually assume that it is only verbal. But it is very important to remember that you are always communicating. Your body posture, facial expressions, eye movements and gestures displayed through your body language all convey information. This form of communication is called non-verbal communication and according to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, author of Silent Messages, about 93% of all daily communication is non-verbal.
While different experts dispute this exact number, the takeaway should be that a majority of our communication happens non-verbally and it is important to be aware of this fact when we are interacting with others.
Relationships and Communication
Our lives are tangled with relationships. Sometimes you tend to get extremely tired of them and sometimes they are all you want. But the truth is, these relationships are the threads that make you feel loved, secured, and give you a sense of belonging. And communication is the glue that strengthens and deepens your relationships.
Why is communication important in a relationship?
When you have a problem with your relationship that you’ve chosen not to share with your partner/friend or family, you contribute more towards the problem than you realise. For example, if you are waiting for your partner to propose to you, you might end up waiting for a long time, if that is not what your partner wants. However, this problem mainly stems from the social attitude that only men should propose to women. But instead if you could talk this out and reach a point of mutual understanding, then you would be able to think clearly and understand each other’s goals better.
An avoidance or stop in communication will prevent that topic from being shared and gone through. When enough of these issues build up, it behaves as if there were clamps on the lungs of the relationship. The relationship has trouble breathing. Without this exchange of life energy, the relationship cannot grow, it may struggle, and if it is severe enough, then the relationship suffers and dies. The relationship can be considered to be a living entity just as each one of us are living. There has to be a continuous flow of energy through each and every living entity. The flow is between each partner of the relationship and between the relating partners and the environment. Just as in an individual body, when the energy is blocked or stopped, a disease or illness starts to develop. The key for a healthy and growing relationship is to keep communication flowing.
Effective communication enables you to sort out your problems easily, and have fun at the same time. This is because you have someone close to you who supports you in times of need and, therefore, your problem will be compartmentalised, as you’re sharing the load.
Paying attention is an important half of communication. Communication is part giving and part receiving. Both parts are necessary by both partners for good communication. Some people are good listeners and some are good talkers, but both partners have to do both for complete and effective communication. Communication can be stopped on both sides by avoidance of the giving or telling, and by avoidance of the receiving. Attention has to be given to both sides of communication to ensure that the communication remains completed by both partners and that stops or blocks are addressed and released to allow the relationship to grow in a healthy fashion.
Being able to effectively communicate in a relationship is the perfect way to show the individual how happy you are within it. Being tight-lipped about a problem will only hurt your relationship and the individual in the long-run.
Learning how to effectively communicate with an individual will strengthen the trust, honesty and respect you have for each-other, irrespective of the relationship you share.
Your Professional life and Communication
Understanding the benefits of effective communication helps companies place a focus on developing a workforce that is able to communicate within the firm and with customers, vendors and international business partners. Some companies spend a lot of money to train their employees on how to communicate effectively.
Effective communication skills are extremely valuable for an individual at a workplace.Communication builds a bridge between team members that creates a huge support system for an employee at the workplace. Communicating and maintaining a good rapport with your management and team can also enhance one’s work-life balance.
Effective communication is a basic prerequisite for the attainment of organisational goals. No organisation or group can exist without communication. Co-ordination of work is impossible and the organisation will collapse for lack of communication. Co-operation also becomes impossible because people cannot communicate their needs and feelings to others.If open communication within a workplace is encouraged, a more cohesive and effective team will emerge. Good communication within a team also tends to boost employee morale. When employees feel that they are well informed of the company’s direction and vision, they will feel more secure within their role. Regular internal communication can also lead to an improved work ethic if staff are reminded of achievements and feel that they are working towards a common goal.
Being able to communicate effectively is one of the fundamental requirements to advance in your career. No matter how smart and hard-working you are, if you aren’t able to communicate what value you bring to the organisation, it is likely that you will be overlooked for promotions and plum postings.
Since almost every organisation has people from different states and countries, good communication is imperative in reducing barriers erected by language and cultural differences. Thus, they enhance the diversity of an organisation.
So much about communication has been spoken about and yet we see numerous barriers as we keep failing to communicate or express our thoughts. It is said that if an individual learnt to communicate better, he or she could solve a lot of the world’s problems.Therefore, the importance of communication cannot be underestimated. Communication is the best tool to lead a happy and prosperous life. So, learn and try to communicate at your best. Remember, someone is always listening.